10 Things I Wish I Knew Before Starting My Blog

10 Things I Wish I Knew Before Starting My Blog

Blogging ain’t for the faint of heart!  I naively started this blog about three years ago without really having a plan.  I knew enough to buy my domain and pick a theme on WordPress.  Listen, I really thought only my mother would be reading my blog, but quickly my lack of a plan had me scrambling to catch up! So after three years in the game, there are a few things that I wish I knew way back when.  Rather than watching newbie bloggers flounder like I did, I thought I would share a couple of things I wish I had known before I hit “publish” on my first post.  So here are my 10 Things I Wish I Knew Before Starting My Blog.

A not so little thing called SEO

I had no understanding of how google worked AT ALL when I started blogging.  I think my first introduction to “SEO” was from the Yoast SEO plugin my cousin added to my website when she upgraded it for me.  Not going to lie, I ignored that section for awhile until finally taking a elementary level class on SEO that helped me tremendously.  I still have more to learn, but I saw a big difference in my views once I put some focus in this area.

WordPress.org vs. WordPress.com

Thankfully I learned this lesson pretty early on.  I started with what I knew, creating a WordPress hosted blog through the .com version of WordPress.  Lets call this version a website with training wheels.  It is great for a beginner, but like training wheels you cannot do much with it.  Thankfully, my cousin was able to switch me over. For anyone starting now though, I would suggest going through the trouble and starting with WordPress.org website and then doing your research on the best website hosts.

Website “Stuff” in General

Throughout my life I have been able to skim read things and get the basic concepts fairly quickly.  The “stuff” I am referring to here, like website design and coding might as well be Chinese! Then paying someone to execute your vision is expensive! So I have to take the time to slowly digest information so that I can apply it to my website.  The ideal situation would be reading all of this info before starting a blog so you are not scrambling to fix something at midnight before work the next day.


This is still astonishing to me, but yes folks will steal your stuff!  Your pictures, your blog name, your content, your ideas.  There is not a line an uncreative scammer will not cross trust and believe.  As I have said before, you have to protect your stuff and stay diligent in watching out for your intellectual property.  Do not think you are too small to take the steps to protect your property because unfortunately, we often wait until it is too late.

Focus On What You Own

Prime example of this, before Instagram stories I shared most of my foodie adventures on Snap Chat and had a pretty decent following there.  After they changed the setup, I like many others left the platform moving to Instagram Stories.  Imagine if that was my only way to connect with my followers? Black Girls Who Brunch would be dead in the water.  So every now and then I have to stop myself from getting super worked up over my social media accounts and circle back to what I actually own/control.  My own website.  My social media accounts serve as a compliment to promote those and my brand, but I never want them to consume me.

Add Some Personality

Think about some of the influencers you follow on social media and ask yourself why do you like following them.  Often times you enjoy their photos or have similar interests, but you may find yourself saying things like “she is so sweet” or “he cracks me up with his captions.”  That has more to do with their personality! So one of my easiest tips is to add a dab of you to your blog and watch people develop a genuine connection with you. As Wendy Williams says they become “the friend in your head” which is great because we trust our “friends” recipes, restaurant and travel recommendations!

Creating Opportunities

I still struggle with this one if I am being honest.  In Houston at least, once you make a few necessary connections, your email box will stay filled with blogger events with little effort on your end.  That is great and all, but when you think about it, you are allowing others to dictate your content.  What you share is simply based on what lands in your email box and content should be intentional based on what YOU want your brand to be.  That sometimes means pitching an idea to a brand you love or visiting a place off the beaten path that is not Instagram famous.  This may take more work, but the end product is worth it!

Passive Income Streams

When I say I blog, I get snarky comments like “do you make money off of that?” I take that to mean why are you wasting your time doing all of that for no money.  Well for me, I started this blog as a hobby because I legit enjoyed writing and sharing my foodie experiences.  Any income from it was just icing on the cake.  Now, while I do not make a whole lot of coins from blogging,  I make enough to have a little extra pocket change and I sho’ do appreciate it!

There are tons of ways to make money blogging, but to date my favorite has been passive income streams like affiliate marketing.  If you purchase an item through a link from a blog, the blogger will receive a percentage of the proceeds at no cost to you the reader.  This makes it a great way for you to support your favorite bloggers and a super easy way to make money.  Once I figured this all out, I could have kicked myself not doing it sooner! To date, my most profitable blog post remains my “Diner En Blanc” series simply because of the affiliate links (read my disclaimer here).  In short, passive income streams allow you to make money while you sleep!

Networking is Key

To many people, blogging is a competitive sport and honestly it should not be.  I cannot tell you how many opportunities have fallen in my lap simply because another blogger shared my contact information or I got to tag along as a plus one for an event.  I in turn have done the same for my blogger friends.  Basically, there is no comprehensive guide for blogging so you may have to work with other folks to get ahead.  Make friends not enemies!

If You Build it They MAY Come

This is probably the hardest thing.  You can follow every step to create a “perfect blog” and yet not garner the following that others have.  The key thing to remember is there is no perfect formula to this and even when you do EVERYTHING that others do it may not  yield the same results.  Some people go viral and take off in a week’s time.  Others (like me) may see slow and steady growth through consistent posting and engagement.  I say all this to say do not be discouraged and to circle back to the reasons you even started this when you are a funk.

So those are my ten things that I did not know when I started.  What are some of the lessons you have learned? Share in the comments below!

By |2018-08-30T09:47:51-05:00August 28th, 2018|Categories: Tips and Tricks, Top Lists|19 Comments


  1. Gristle & Gossip August 28, 2018 at 11:14 pm - Reply

    this is a great post! i need to be better at alllll of deez tingz!

  2. APRIL EDWARDS August 29, 2018 at 10:48 am - Reply

    Thanks for sharing! I’ve been struggling and trying to stay motivated with all the other things in life like I work full time, hubby and two kids. You think it’s easy but it is not! I printed this post out so I can remember all these tips..

    • Erika | Black Girls Who Brunch August 29, 2018 at 1:02 pm - Reply

      Glad it was helpful and yes it can be hard to stay motivated/consistent but once you find your groove you will coast right along.

  3. Erin Creeks August 29, 2018 at 11:35 am - Reply

    So much truth to all of this. I don’t think any of us were prepared when we first started blogging. My favorite part in all of this is people will steal. I wasn’t prepared for that one….still not.

  4. Erin Creeks August 29, 2018 at 11:36 am - Reply

    I dont think any of us were prepared for blogging when we first got started. I’m still not. My favorite part of this whole thing is people will steal…. even the brands.

    • Erika | Black Girls Who Brunch August 29, 2018 at 1:03 pm - Reply

      YESSSS brands will steal without a second thought. Another thing is that we as bloggers have to do better about shutting that stuff down. If we all say no, then that helps brands know that it is wrong.

  5. Skyy Daniels August 29, 2018 at 12:28 pm - Reply

    Great article.

  6. Kim August 29, 2018 at 1:00 pm - Reply

    This has truly encouraged me! I’m still learning the odds and ends of blogging. I actually want to blog full time some day and I’m starting very very slow. Your tips are valuable and bless you for sharing!! Kudos and continued blessings to all the phenomenal bloghers out there!! 😄

    • Erika | Black Girls Who Brunch August 29, 2018 at 1:05 pm - Reply

      I’m glad you found this helpful! I think the hardest part about learning the odds and ends is that it always changes. What worked for the algorithms last month may not work today. Having to keep up is draining, but it is part of the game.

  7. Dom N' The City August 29, 2018 at 1:09 pm - Reply

    Hey Erika! Thanks for sharing this list. What is funny is before blogging I thought THAT HAS TO BE EASY. After a month in I realized it was more work than I thought, but when you are passionate it doesn’t feel like work. One thing I wish someone taught me is is how important consistency is. Consistency in posting gives your readers a reason to come back. Great list and I will be sharing this with others!

    – Dom N’ The City

    • Erika | Black Girls Who Brunch August 29, 2018 at 1:12 pm - Reply

      Yes! Consistency was another one that I wanted to add, but that is the key thing. I agree with you, when you are consistent, people know they can always check in and there will be new content.

  8. Leticia Armstrong August 29, 2018 at 2:28 pm - Reply

    Thank you for sharing!! I finally decided to start IG blogging (literally 5 days ago) after going back and forth in my head for the past 2-3 years. This article helped a newbie like me, considering I am starting a website soon. love it

    • Erika | Black Girls Who Brunch August 29, 2018 at 10:13 pm - Reply

      You are honestly in the right place! 5 days in is the best time to implement these things so basically you are working smarter not harder!

  9. Jessica August 29, 2018 at 10:10 pm - Reply

    Love this! I still feel like im in the early stages, but so much of this hit home! Thanks for sharing and being encouraging!

  10. Kharima August 30, 2018 at 9:56 am - Reply

    Thanks for sharing this info and your experiences. Consistency is my struggle.

  11. Valerie Sweeten August 30, 2018 at 3:18 pm - Reply

    Excellent advice! Thanks so much for sharing! Really great to know.

  12. Maricia February 28, 2019 at 2:22 pm - Reply

    Thanks so much for the information. I do almost everything on my blog site myself. I do have some assistance in writing, and photography. It has been a slow process, but it has continued to grow. One thing about social media that I have learned is that you have to know your audience. My audience is typically women of a certain age 45 plus, and we use Facebook 1st and then Instagram and Twitter. My followers are way more on Facebook than any other platform.

    I also have reached out to events and brands–some have been very successful endeavors. One thing I have learned is that it is not always about your numbers, but your consistency. I don’t post on a schedule, and not everything I attend, use or do deserves a post on my website. This is where I use social media–I post it somewhere, and then I let the people know I did.

    You have helped me out, and I have learned a lot from you. As a woman of a certain age I look forward to reading more about your adventures in food, travel, entertainment and more. Hopefully I can learn and incorporate the passive income stream in the future.

    Remember” thisisyourbestyear”.


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